Wanted...Needed...And Protected

February is a time for romance. Very cute. Except I am SO NOT LOOKING FORWARD TO PUBLIC SCHOOL ON VALENTINES DAY :O :O :O :O >.< Two of my periods are choir, and thus two of my periods are held on the other side of the campus waaaayyyy oofff in the disstannnceee from civvvvilizzzzzation. You know what that means? Yucky stuff.

Anyways. Let's talk. Like serious talk. About love since that's what February is basically all about, right? Right.

Girls want to be wanted. Girls want to be held. Girls want to be needed. Girls want to be protected. (If you're a guy and you're reading this you could possibly get some good girl advice, so don't gag and run away yet.) For me it comes with the whole "wanting to be closer to Jesus", like in my post on why I love hugs so much: get's me just a slight step closer to Him. Same with this concept. "To be wanted and not lusted for. To be loved and not pitied. To be asked and not commanded." --Bryan Davis in his book "Oraces of Fire" (an amazing book that I recommend all to read). Anyways. Girls like the strong protective arms of someone...perferably a guy, whether it be a dad, grandpa, boyfriend or just friend, etc. Girls are great, of course, to get hugs from. But guys....big difference really. No offense to any of my beautiful ladies out there.

So here comes my point. Why? Why are we like this? I don't see or hear guys going around being all sappy and doe-eyed. I mean, I'm assuming that they're not heartless, but it's soo...odd...to see guys be so stoic when inside your heart is melting and the gazillions of butterflies in your stomach are going crazy. Honestly I just can't quite understand a guy. Probably never will. Losing focus, sorry. My point is: why? Why do we want to be wanted? Why do we want to be held? Why do we want to be needed? Why do we want to be protected? I think the answer is fairly simple really...

We all know (or most know) how in the Bible it says that the "man is to be the head of the house, just as Christ is the head of the church." And more often than not there is always usually a huge controversy on this subject. I myself used to get a little annoyed at this statement: why can't women be the head? Well we come to my previous sayings. Girls judge to much based off of emotions. I believe that a man and a women should rule the house equally, but in the end the man should have the ultimate decision. Otherwise you'd never come to a standpoint and you'd alwas be left hanging. Guys are supposed to take charge. They're supposed to be the protectors and providers. A huge task, but it is what is commanded in the Bible. Women are incapable of this. Why? Because, again, we want to be wanted, we want to be needed, we want to be held, and we want to be loved and protected. And the key word there is that we "want". While we "want" to be all these things, in the end only God can provide the ultimate satisfaction. Oh a husband can give you amazing feelings beyond any crush ever could, but without our ultimate groom there is no possible way that these satisfactions and feelings will ever be quenched completely.

How does this tie in to the man being the head of the church? Simply state, girls judge based off of emotions. Notice in the phrase I keep repeating I say: "wanted", "needed", and "protected." If we want all these things then who could possibly give them? God, of course, but in this present world there has to be someone. Whether you find a husband (or a wife) or end up getting old and living with 50 cats, you still want and still need (in your opinion) these things. Although God should be our ultimate, it is our worldly desire and nature to have these feelings. Why else do you think old woman have tons of cats? Because they're fluffy, cuddly, and you can hold them. Thus they get a slight feeling of satisfaction over having their "children" in their arms.

And so I conclude. Girls...find a guy who will be all this and more, but don't set your standards as high as God's because...well...your guy will definitely fail you. And guys...be the protector for the girls. Take charge: be someone. Don't be afraid to stand up and tell that girl how much you love her. While sometimes girls do get impatient and make the first move, it is best for the guys to make the first move because it proves that they are capable of such a huge task. :P

That's about all I gotta say. Hopefully I made myself fairly clear. This is specifically for a person who I recently wrote a letter too ;) although anyone who reads it I hope will gleen at least a bit of info. out of it.

Love,
Becca <3 =)